The vision of the couple in Korea !


Korean society has kept its patriarchal status. A woman is expected to be feminine, well-presented, gentle, and considerate. It is important to know that around 70% of women don’t work. And when a woman does work, she often puts an end to her career once married.

It is important for men to follow good courses of study as it is them who will most often support their family financially. However, even though the majority of women don’t work, that doesn’t mean that they don’t have access to education. The vast majority of women graduate university. Even though it’s a country where business employees are mostly masculine, the women are educated. They are politically aware and have access to studies just like men.


In terms of marriage, when a woman marries the first born in a family the traditional values are maintained. From that moment, the woman will leave her family to become part of her husband’s. It’s at that time that she will take the place of her mother-in-law. She should take care of the house and look after her parents-in-law.

However, although nowadays the country’s culture remains rooted in the Korean people’s hearts, particularly during cultural celebrations, there are certain families who no longer follow these traditions in their daily life.

So how are marriages in Korea?


Let’s take a first look at the traditional Korean marriage. The ajumma are very active in the choice of their child’s future husband/wife. Sometimes they choose the future spouse alone, according to precise criteria: physical appearance, which university they attended, the reputation of their business, the position they have, their professional ambitions…
Once a person is selected by their in-laws, the moment comes to meet their parents to offer their own child in marriage. Generally, couples don’t really know each other when they get married and married life can sometimes be complicated.

The ajumma share the wedding day which symbolises their quality as parents, and the success of their children. The friends of the parents are then invited to this event to admire their success.
The young couple then go over to each table to thank them for attending. These weddings are very traditional and unfortunately not very fun for the couple who know practically no one.

In South Korea, marriage is only legally recognised when an official document is signed at the town hall. The funny thing is that there are no ceremonies around this signing. The married couple are not even obliged to be there together to sign the marriage certificate.

The ajumma are proud to share this moment with their relatives. It’s very important for their social aspirations to have a family that is successful in Korean society.

It can also bring a lot of stress when you know the difficulty of attending a good school and the cost of a wedding, because it is the parents who prepare and pay for the associated costs. What’s more, schools are very expensive because they are all private. Parents make a lot of sacrifices to pay for the best schools for the children, and to give them a chance to succeed.